By: Diamond Buckley
Getting cheated on can be one of the most difficult things to go through. It can bring out intense feelings of insecurity, guilt, and confusion. Even when given an explanation on why your partner decided to go out of your relationship, it can still feel like there are unanswered questions; and that you’re the sole problem. While you may think that is there is something you could done, a grand gesture to save your relationship prior to the act of infidelity, but there wasn’t and that thinking can be toxic t your feelings.
One of the main reasons people decide to cheat is simply because of insecurity. This insecurity can stem from past relationships or their family life. Some people have a fear of abandonment from the past that causes them to take it out on their current relationships, in forms of cheating and abuse. General self doubt about one’s appearance and competence can cause someone to seek validation outside of the relationship as well.
Sounds terrible to say, but boredom is a huge reason why people decide to go out of their relationship as well. Some are just thrill seekers and they hate routine. Relationships are exciting at first; meeting someone for the first time and getting to know them is a thrill to them. Sooner or later though, the relationship becomes too routine and boring. This is when they decide to go outside of the relationship.
It might sound cliché, but one of the biggest reasons people go out of their relationship, is because they want their cake and they want to eat it too. They understand that they’re in this amazing relationship; and instead of ending it to explore temptation, they just cheat. It’s incredibly selfish and it happens way too often.
While there are of course other factors as to why someone cheats, these are extremely common reasons. While every relationship is different, you need to understand that you should never beat yourself up if someone decides to go outside of your relationship. Chances are, it’s probably for a reason that you can not help.